In A World That’s Dissappearing – condoms for kids?

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  1. faceoff says:

    Bringing up kids is not the easiest thing to do. Not having the talk with your kids is the worst thing to do. Many Nigerian/West African kids are victims of all these “traditional” beliefs, kids are kids—lets leave it like that. I have a 13 month old son and he acts like an old man. These kids from long before birth have been exposed to Sex, they heard you but cannot comprehend. He pops out and then figures he has a peepee and plays with it—-a natural thing, its his afterall. Shutting them out of anything they wish to learn including Sex is a very dangerous thing to do. Mothers shouldn’t feel shy to tell ur kids “anyone touch you anywhere that makes you uncomfortable, report to me immediately, I will beat that person. You trust mama can beat that person?” They already see you as a hero anyway, so let them believe it and they will tell you when someone touches them inappriopriately.

    If you as a parent do not feel comfortable talking to them, get someone you trust….a teacher, a really trusted PASTOR, an uncle, friend , whoever….to help you out and hopefully someday, you’ll be brave enough to explain why you were so shy or have a follow up talk.

    And don’t think Boys are not targets these days…..have the talk with your kids.

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  2. faceoff says:

    I purposely chose not to comment on the condom for kids issue. That’s a different soceity, they have different beliefs on how to raise kids. It works for them. Till we get to a point where we make ourselves aware, let’s just talk and then we can start issuing comdoms…..only because we believe our kids listen and are intelligent and smart enough to protect themselves should they chose to have sex….till then, let our brains work and our mouths be a tool for education.

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  3. Princess says:

    I don’t think condoms for kids is not such a bad idea with the way they’re having sex these days, they certainly need to be taught how to protect themselves

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  4. Emmanuel chux chukwurah says:

    Every thing that has a disadvantage has its own advantage it seems. For us afrcans sex education is near taboo but not always. (Come to this point latter). Now there is prevalence of child abuse in the western world more than we have it here. Sometimes, the kind of knowlege we have may affect us negatively. Because a child gets to know about sex on time in dat world, they tend to practice on time what they have learnt irrespective of some notes of caution that might have accompanied the class. So what that kind of class does is to put some curiosity into the child‘s mind and next is d practical aspect of the biology class. You may not agree with this point but i wil buttress it with a point from d scripture. On a certain ocasion Jesus told his disciples dat he had many things to tell them but he thot dat they wud not be able to understand it at dat time & so he promised to send them the helper, the holy spirit, to help them understand things they cudnt understand. There are some information which are fit for the heart of a little boy or girl. Even as adult, all d information we need does not get to us at thesame time. Otherwise, we wont spent 4-7 yrs in d university to study a particular course. If you noticed, u wud understand that that u cud ve done all ur courses in 1 or 2 yrs but it had to come in beats and pieces to avoid misunderstanding and misapplication. The thing is: information overload is dangerous to the mind.

    You girls are fortunate here in africa. Atleast you were told that if a boy touched you, u wud get pregnant. For us boys, nobody told us anything. But a certain ‘instinct‘ governs our behaviour. I remembered that at about 8yrs, i still took showers with my female distant cousins. I knew that d region below her abdomen was a region i cudnt play into. But sometimes, some of us kids experimented with sex, tho without pleasure attached. It was something we did, not in d open tho, cos dat ‘intinct‘ or i shud call it ‘conscience‘, wud not let us do it in d public.( page 2 comin later)

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  5. Emmanuel chux chukwurah says:

    Now let me continue from where i stopped. I remember on 2 different ocasion i caught my frend with one of my cousin sisters. That instinct/conscience told me to report what i saw. My frnd invited me to d ‘meal‘ which i declined. I waited till my cousin‘s mother came back and then i reported the case. Ofcourse my cousin was trashed and pepper was rubbed on dat region. Same was done to my frend.

    It is not dat sex education was totally absent in africa. There was sex education in certain african region. Camara Laye in the book AFRICAN CHILD talks about circumsicion and initiation. That was a traditional african society where values such as sex education were inculcated. It was an institutional affair rather than a family issue or girl and mother relationship talk. That is why i ealier said that sex education is not totally a taboo in africa. Yes it was not in a world before ours. Now because things fell apart with the advent of d white man (sory i have to go into this), our cultural values were eroded. But who stops us from bringing back aspects of our culture that is beneficial to us?

    In this times, Asa, one of my favourite artistes, asks: ‘ who is responsible for what we teach our children‘? The internet, tv, home video, cartoons, disney tv, etc. Dont think that these are programmes for kids. Wel may be they are for kids. But in these programmes, cartoon xters marry, kiss and have sex IN FRONT OF YOUR CHILDREN.
    I deal with kids. Sometimes they amaze me with what they know. And when i probe them to know the source of their knowledge, they tell me its from cartoon, from disney, from high school musicals and from ipads. Parents have become too careless. Coupled what they see around them with what their instincts naturally tell them, you go see danger, danger, danger eeeh

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  7. DottaRaphels says:

    Sally this is not only broadly reserched and articulated,you have chosen a topic many care givers and parents shy away from. Unfortunately our world has moved on and in the area of sexual orientation and litracy…not for the better.
    I am a mother of 7 ranging between ages 22 and 5, and I had the sex talk with each as soon as the time called for it.
    As you rightly noted, our world is a sex orientated one; it’s in our faces everyday.
    The sooner parents and care givers decide to face facts and talk to their wards,the better…else they will get their education from the wrong sources which guarantees to be warped on every level, trust me.

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    • moskeda says:

      Thank you for sharing, Dotta. I wish all parents were like you and mother of a 22year old and you’re still hawt! Hmmm…you go, girl!

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  8. Cialis says:

    Thanks for sharing this information with , I will return every week to read more.

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  9. Mo'Rain says:

    I’ll get back to this topic when I have my first child! Let me get married 1st! *sips kunu*

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