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  1. Arome Ameh says:

    I strongly believe these stories should be exposed
    On one hand some of these “men of God” go hunting for the ladies,cos they simply feel they can,and on the other hand the ladies go hunting for the “men of God”,they r men first,and prone to temptation
    But,a man tasked with leading a flock,must try to abstain from urges of the flesh,especially when its tagged as fornication or and adultery.
    Good work sally,I urge all ladies with legitimate stories to come out,don’t make noise if u were a willing participant and got burned along the line and decided u want payback,cos that’s just being a hypocrite,the key word here being legitimate.

  2. che-koh! says:

    Preach on sister!! Preach on!! Solidly behind you. God help us all

  3. sandra says:

    I have never been in a situation like this and I commend da ladies who are bold enough to come out and share their pain and rise above all da guilt and low esteem dat their experiences have shadowed them with .. And if u have never been in it or felt their pain u simply have no right 2 judge afterall even Christ said ‘ he who is without sin should cast da 1st stone.. I strongly believe that no man is perfect, we are all flesh and dust and so these men of God should not be placed on a pedestal above reproach 4 da sins they commit behind da clothe.. A lot of them abuse da power they think they have all because they stand @ da pulpit.. So please ladies .. Be careful.. Not all dat call him father father will actually see heaven… @moskedam. May the Lord continually be ur strength

  4. pgent says:

    God bless u 4 writing dis, dis same issue has been on my mind since last sunday when my church played a message by bro praise(rccg) tittled “raising godly children in a sexualised world” as d opening talk for our annual children root rally…even as a guy dat’s over 20,i was having goose pimples when d preacher was reading d statistics of female children dat have been sexually abused&d most sickening of it,is d fact dat majority of men dat abused dis young girls are dia close relatives,uncles which dey look up to 4 help&it’s a big pity dat when dis girls report 2 dia mothers,dey are advised 2 keep quiet about it

  5. chisom says:

    Seriously my jaw dropped, this is no fiction, I heard of dis kind of story vaguely, u gave me an indepth understanding of w@ our innocent girls, women go 2ru in d hands of their pastors, I want 2 also commend on ur mentioning of d part women play in dis(seduction) and condeming it, u r infact strength 2 weak girls and women d@ have no one 2 talk 2 abt dis. Thanks sally 4 dis wonderful piece

  6. Isaacola AA says:

    Men at the very best are still men. My qualms is when you missed it, stop justifying or placing yourself in some ecumenical sanctimonious pedestal of am can’t make mistake.
    The truth you know and practice set you free.

  7. toyinfabs says:

    Only an idiot will blame you for this. Thank you for this.

  8. Clarion says:

    Wow Sally…….God bless you for these truths…… “It is because predators, victims, partakers, spectators, contributors, judges, people on the fence, all of them keep quiet and it spreads from the head to the least person. Just because we don’t want to expose our sins and seek for mercy.”
    “…..Ladies, stop seducing your pastor. God has given you the strength to flee if he is too weak to flee. Go to church, face your God. Stop disturbing pastor for special prayers biko; that’s why women leaders are there. Leave those pastors! They are just men and last I checked, can still be affected by your boobs and bom-bom.”
    I can imagine the Emotional turmoil you went through. No words, really. Sigh.

  9. God Bless you dear… Well scripted. I feel many more ladies will find their voices

  10. ustyn says:

    Just like i said the oda time on Ese’s case,it only God’s grace that we all need to survive in their perilous time….we were all concieved and born into a sinful world all we pray 4 be it a pastor,iman,bishop,deacon,alfa,ordinary member,atheist and what have you is the mercies n grace of God to survive…..lets all keep prayin 4 whoever is in authority be it spiritually,socially or politicaly cos that what they all need frm us all..God bless us

  11. Sisi Yemmie says:

    To be honest, so many girls have been victims… 🙁

  12. I understand you perfectly well.

  13. The Light says:

    This is just the beginning of girls coming out to talk. I have been a victim of this crap. May God wash the church and set us free. Pastor even sleeping with their associate pastor’s wives and their pastor being aware. All their fakeness and unstable penises and “hiding under grace and touch not my anointed” cover is pathetic. May the same happen to their daughters and generations. God bless Ese Walter for coming out. Say what you will, if you haven’t being tempted sorely. PLEASE SHUT UP. Temptation from authority and “anointing” can mke a naive christian fall. It is the worst and hardest.

  14. saymalcolm says:

    I’m glad you wrote this sincere story. If Ese’s story becomes the catalyst for exposing charlatans, all well and good. God bless you!

  15. c says:

    I think a lot of women think that their pastor’s phallus is angelic. They take the man to be angel Gabriel visiting the virgin Marry. I can understand why they hide such crimes. Talk about disgusting thing standing in a ‘holy’ place. I know of a widow who goes out with her pastor who is not yet a widower! Sometimes ask, how does the woman now view the pastor when he is preaching and praying? Snd does the pastor think that the woman will view him when he stands on the pulpit? Little wonder that a lot of people have lost faith in religion due to the behaviour of these men of what I don’t know. Shall we talk about their attitude toward money? What about their total deceptive power? Do they really see what they claim they see? What is the source of their power if at all they have one?… There are many bags of question for these men. Take note, this is not a nigerian problem,it is a global issue. Crime committed in the alter of religion is more heinous than all those committed outside it. Even the crimes of politicians have religious undertone because most of them associate with one religion or the other. Their religion has failled to built a righteous life in them. How can it, when it is these very politicians who are closer to their religious leaders more than all else. So they see the hypocrisy of the religious leaders first hand. There is no way that their religion will have an impact on them.

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  17. Tayo says:

    Hey Sally,

    As someone who has been to your blog many times to enjoy your writing, this happening to you would have never crossed my mind.
    But that’t the thing about abuse towards women, especially in Nigeria.
    Our society teaches us to casually sweep it under the carpet and move on with our lives like it never happened, else face the wrath of the masses who pose as a mob of “holier than though judges “.
    I say thank you for speaking up. Even if it took many years to build up the courage to do it, because I guarantee you, that your share will help other women/young girls out there who are facing or have faced abuse to do the same.
    It’s about time women started speaking up when they face these kind of situations, because making it clear that IT IS abuse, it has happened to them, and it is frequently happening especially in the church society is the only way it even has the chance to be addressed.
    I’ve had no other contact with you apart from the stories you’ve shared on your blog, but I say as a woman and someone who will stand by any woman as a sister who has experienced any form of abuse;
    for the maturity, objectivity and courage you used to share your story; thank you again and God bless you.

  18. nubianwaters says:

    God bless you!

    Christians should not loose their voices to hypocrisy. Sadly, this hypocritical disposition has so pervaded the church to a point of disgust! I usually say to my friends that the most popular sin among Christians these days in Idolatry and a whole lot of Christians don’t even realize they are committing it! Your write-up just reiterated my opinion.

  19. Jamie says:

    Typical cases of abuse. But you should have reported the Bishop Z incident to your parents, more so when you summoned courage to tell your boyfriend. Your boyfriend supported and asked you to report the matter. You failed on this one bcos, you would exposed the man right away. Abi na the house rent matter hold your mouth?

  20. Olayinka says:

    I’m catholic nd very unfortunately, many priests are fond of me. I see it as a big misfortune cos for years now, I’v had to avoid getting close to priests. Dis is bcos on several occassions, a gud nunber of dem hv tried to bcom intimate wit me. At first i pitied dem, thus, I just avoided being alone wit dem in order to help dem. Now, I find no excuse for dem cos dey had 11 yrs 2 decide.

    Me, I’m @ a stage in my life where I am my own priest. I never get hung on any Man of God’s charms. It cant be so hard to see wen dis MOGs are evil @ heart.

    Thank u for sharing. It was really bold of u..

  21. Olayinka says:

    I’m catholic nd very unfortunately, many priests are fond of me. I see it as a big misfortune cos for years now, I’v had to avoid getting close to priests. Dis is bcos on several occassions, a gud nunber of dem hv tried to be intimate wit me. At first i pitied dem, thus, I just avoided being alone wit dem in order to help dem. Now, I find no excuse for dem cos dey had 11 yrs 2 decide.

    Me, I’m @ a stage in my life where I am my own priest. I never get hung on any Man of God’s charms. It cant be so hard to see wen dis MOGs are evil @ heart. It behoves on us to not allow dem fester in dis indiscipline. We should rebel as much as we can..

    Thank u for sharing. It was really bold of u..

  22. firetrap says:

    the truth is that before these so called pastors “became men of God” they are first and foremost men of flesh and blood and therefore are susceptible to sin as the the next guy. I’m Christian and was brought up a catholic but can say that even the catholic church is not spared this evil. I have seen churches where people hang on every word of the pastor; pastor said this, pastor said that. do not let yourselves be deceived by these men as they are being used to destroy lives. the bible is extremely clear on how to serve God. don’t let anyone interpret it for you cos their interpretation is their own understanding of it.

    also I will advise people to go and listen to blackmagic’s every gaddam city it will also help to enlighten you more about our Nigerian “pastors”

  23. Ozo says:

    Very insightful and a needful account of what happened. Better late than never, but these stories ought to be exposed as soon as they happen (DAMN THE CONSEQUENCES). Unfortunately most people are not bold enough to do so. Calling the Pastor, Pastor Z still doesn’t help to expose these ills. I am not criticising, I am just stating the obvious.

    I have seen the amount of curses being reined on Ese Walter, and pretty much most of them are baseless. She has given an account of what happened to her (true or not); it is her account. If it is true, she is an EXTREMELY bold lady. She acknowledged her faults in the story and people are still condemning her? That is outright wrong! As for COZA’s pastor, if he is guilty then the exposure should be to the fullest irrespective of the consequences to the church or otherwise; and if he is innocent then fine, it is not the end of the world! Churches and pastors are by their very nature suppose to face criticism. “Christianity” is just so twisted in the current day and time (ESPECIALLY IN NIGERIA)

  24. Damilola says:

    WOW! i’m not even sure what to say.

  25. didimaks says:

    I too have been in such a situation, infact I was disvirged by a ‘pastor’, I had jst finished my second schl edu and was seekin to praise my God so I joined d church choir and dats where I met him wit his’ oh I want to be ur friend’ I didn’t see anytin wrong wit dat and I never knew wat he had in mind, he wld stop me at odd corners and touch me a lil here a lil there and being dat I was jst discoverin my body myself I let it all happen and I actually enjoyed it, it was a fine game but dat day finally came wen d game ended and real life began and before I knew it my virginity was gone. Dat was d start of my ‘uphill downhill christian life’. I was marred for life

  26. moskeda says:

    You’re so right about the interpretation thing. People interpret the bible as it suits them.
    Thank you for sharing 🙂

  27. mabel says:

    Very beautiful write up! You have said it all! May God give us the grace to know the fake ones and flee from them.

  28. kemik says:

    thank you for speaking out. dis is seriousss

  29. Olubukola says:

    Wow!!! Thanks for speaking out and sharing your story.
    I hope God gives grace to other abused ladies to open up and expose these so called “MOG” (wolves in sheep’s clothing).


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