Test-The-Terone Why Must I Submit to My Husband

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  1. pelumi says:

    This is a beautiful article…its an eye opener, i like the part where you said even when the man competes outside, he can b rest assured dat he doesnt need to compete in d home, i believe dats wat makes d home attractive and prevents d man, from looking at anoda woman. Bt generaly i think,every woman should read it.welldone sally. As usual u no dey fall my hand

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  2. NatKingDole says:

    Yes!!! Women should submit to us. Sally, nothing like equality at all. I don’t care what anyone thinks. We came first, women were made for us and they must bow. I always put my wife in her place

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    • Sally says:

      SMH. Nate, Nate, Nate. How many times did i call you? me and you know that SHE who must be obeyed should not read your comment or you’re in deep soup. Yeye pesin

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    • pelumi says:

      Oga nate, pls small small nah,she gave illustrations and reasons for everything she wrote. It seems u read ds article closed mindedly so you could have something to argue about nd nt wat u could gain. As for u putting ur wife in her place dats very scary, and in my mind am like tank GOd ds guy aint my husband. Pls take it easy, dats never d way to a womana heart. Forcing her will make her do things for u out of fear, instead of doing it out of luv and respect.

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      • Sally says:

        Don’t mind Nate. He’s a male chauvinist but he means no harm, dear. He’s just joking. He loves his wife dearly

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      • NatKingDole says:

        @Pelumi, oya no vex. Come and be my second wife. I’ll treat you like a queen

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        • pelumi says:

          I alredy have someone who treats me more than a queen.thanks for the offer thou.*winks*( wen i read your comment at first, i felt like boxing you).am happy u luv ur wife(now i feel like hugging you)

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  3. tamara says:

    Wow…you couldn’t be more correct.yea,I’m kinda a feminist,I’m all 4 equality.buh a woman should be d woman…n let d man be d man!

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  4. enajyte says:

    I will come back here when my head is in place. For now though, I’ll say great piece, you took a lot of words right outta my mouth (lol).

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  5. Marvey says:

    I think there should be equality between both sexes, being a very ambitious female :D. But then a head has a neck that turns it, and any man who says he’s not influenced by his wife is a liar, she’s the neck that turns the head- I just learnt this today I’m church, so I’m feeling all wise and deep, hehehehe

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    • Sally says:

      Sister in our church. Hope you greeted that pastor well-well. We’re waiting for his robust reply o. Ya feeling wise and deep with urself abi. Look at u. i sha pity the man that will marry u :p

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  6. ROY says:

    Ii tot yu were going all feminist but in the end I’m glad to note that if stroking our ego will make us happy yu women should do so and more.ii can’t compete with folks at work and get home and start fighting who is the boss with my woman..This is a must read for every lady young or old..nyx one sally as usual..I’m waiting for the day U????? will disapoint me. Though i pray it never ever comes. Good Night.

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  7. Ustyno says:

    Hmmm,..i dont realy like meddling into this equality thing,cos a feminist or semi-feminist like u wil argue n argue til his kingdom cometh,am a strng advocate of the law of karma..what u doeth to others will be done unto thou…..rem 2 shal becum 1,meanin a man n woman shal b one n nt head n body as we tend to imagine,if couple r one then headship shouldnt b an issue IMHO,just do what u knw u will expect others to do 2 u,the two shal complement each other in al aspect,if u alow ur personal hapiness to ovashadow how u treat a part of u (wife/husband) then u should xpect nemesis when the tides would turn hands

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  8. Amaza says:

    Exactly where I stand on this issue. Respect you more, Sally

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  9. Yemisi says:

    Wow! Wen I saw this particular article,I saved it for d last thing to do. I’ve long settled it with myself that a man is d head even if I’m earning more than he is. I hope to put ur advice to good use when I get married. More grace

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  10. isaacola AA says:

    Great piece Sally. I quite agree with you totally on this.

    When one person start demanding for headship, something is definitely wrong in that home. We are meant to complement each other ( look at the sex organs during mating, the two fused to form one) sorry am not vulgar but that should be ideal thing in the home. COMPLIMENTING each other not COMPETING with each other.

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  11. oluwaseyi says:

    I once read somwhr dat wat a man needs in a relationship is respect, n d woman love. Once d woman respect ha man, he will love n protect her. Tho nt married ave seen aw my mum stroke the ego of my dad, he let’s him be d boss on some issue n after he makes some mistakes, he finally takes ha idea.
    Dia has been no turning bk since d day I started reading dis blog, thanks to REMI for distracting me that day in class

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  12. chisom says:

    Thanks sally, u just said my mind, in my department political science, we r more of men Dan Women. Our decisions really don’t count. They hate feminism, and I am an aspiring feminist, I believe in equality but in my class it is seen as disobedience, lack of respect in order words hitting shoulders with men. I can’t wait to read this in my class and relate it with contemporary political arena because women r not given their space in the political arena. And also I want women to know that there is power, unimaginable power in humility and they abi we should get hold of it and make adequate use of it. Thanks sally, more grease to your elbow, may God enrich ur wisdom and ur pen never seize to flow.

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  13. Tomilade says:

    This is the best article I’ve read on gender equality. I like how you explained that a man is only the ‘head’ in marriage. I believe equality should come with the understanding of the intricacies of both genders. This is perfect! Well done, God bless you.

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  14. Seye Seye says:

    You did justice to this issue. I daily learn things to put into action when I’m married. This shouldn’t be anyone’s business here but I’ll mention it either way. I had a very fruitful discussion with one of those who commented earlier (@newnaija) some hours before you posted this. This only adds to whatever we discussed.
    That said, I wish our women nowadays (esp. The yet to be married) will learn a lot from here. The men certainly have things to pick too.
    Its a matter of each of the two doing his/her bit to make it a success. That’s why I agree with the word ‘fusion’. When the man does his bit, and the woman does hers, the individual efforts combine to give “1 united, mostly positive result”.
    God bless you for this

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  15. Marvey says:

    Sally, the robust reply is like the coming if our Lord-soon.
    Why are falling my hand na? My future hubby might have read it, just incase u have (future hubby) u will always be the head 😉

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  16. A lot of salient issues have been raised by this post. Interestingly, I am always falling into a similar strain of discussion with friends.Sometime back, someone boldly told me “I am a feminist to the core.” Now, if she had said “I am a feminist”, I’d not have raised any eyebrow…but when she added “to the core” I had no choice than to take her up on that. ‘cos when you say that, u av gone to the extreme. Now, mind I do not support the concepts of chauvinism or that of feminism….as far as I am concerned they are just things that came up ‘cos we fail to respect each other and take seriously our feelings, aspirations and personal expectations seriously. If you ask me, if only everyone takes a deeper look and answer the question – if I was in his/her shoes how would I feel; only then can we start to understand how to better appreciate one another.
    Again, let me quickly point out that most times it is easy to tint our arguments with self-colouration – using and strssing only those points that favor our argument.
    There will come a time when you will have to step back and ask yourself – am I being fair? Is my opinion on this issue as balanced as it can be. It is difficult, and that is where the room for compromise comes in.
    Maybe it is one reason I have a lot of female friends – that struggle to find out and understand what goes on in the female mind.
    So far, it is still a research in progress.
    Having said all that, this is a very nice way to throw up this issue and open a discussion channel. I am always going to come here and find out how the opinion(s) swinging.
    Nice one, Sally.

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  17. t4temi says:

    Dis was enlightening……husbands sud not come home to a competing wife , d home sud be a place where he can rest from all d hustling out there. Hmmn, i never saw it like that but now i know. When i get married, i will remember to ensure my home is where my husband wants to ocme to after every day work……well done.

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  18. ugo says:

    Sally Sally, all I can say is wow. U r really talented. Thanks for d article. We learn everyday.

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  19. ekpo eze says:

    It is the paragraph about every marriage having its own rules and just loving and living that surmises it all for me. As usual beautiful!!!

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  20. itheword says:

    One day I’m gonna get me my own queen, and I will live happily ever after, with her right next to me as an equal. Until then, oh boy, this marriage thing is … frightening!

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  21. Anita says:

    An educative piece,good one,learnd a lot,tnks

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  22. Amaka Chinedu says:

    Sally! Sally! *a Standing ovation ist abeg*. Babe! U jus nailed it. Wen I ist got married,I ws always trying to let my hubby know I ws d boss(I’m d eldest in my family,so I brought it to my marriage). We always had arguments even wen I ws right. He always told me I could control him if only I speak more politely n respected him more. And ever since I threw away dat ‘ist born’ attitude,u’d think I’m using juju on him. Every lady shd pls,let men be men,its their pride. Jus as they r d head n we r d neck,we turn d head to d direction we want but in a very gentle manner. Thank u Sally! U r one woman I respect a whole lot.
    Ps. M sharing on my fb timeline straight up.

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    • Sally says:

      Go ahead, dear. God bless you for your wonderful words. And thank my husband as well. I didn’t do this alone. Thanks again

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  23. Firstlady Temidayo says:

    Salome darling! I hope ur husband won’t read this cos he will just smack me straight! Seriously, I agree with the post. And I’m grateful u mentioned our country has being so much engrossed in men being the head. Dear men, Nobody dey drag am with u na, in as much as we are d neck, we fit turn u anywia *lol*.. I love you sally and with that fact, I love this post too. God bless u dear… ( Oga must not read it ooo else ‘both 2’ of us are in soup) *thumbs up*

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  24. fransik says:

    Great article/piece indeed! The simple logic was unravelled. once both parties are centred on the unique word ‘love’ then a man should play his part whilst a woman take care of hers too. Am not really a fan of wu’z d boss and wu’s not.(bt I sure knw am a fan of Sally). ‘Let the man be d man and d woman be d woman’ …this applies not only to couples, but to every male and female. A lady everly has her core roles to play and the Man has his too, the strength of these roles and responsibilties determines wu handles thus wu’s fit for the task actually handles. Both persons give expected respects to eachoda. Let the man struggle, toil d soil, hussle, bustle, (etc) outside aggressively but let d dude be so soft back inside. Thats d way forward.
    Great piece once again Sally. Am not surprised tho.

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  25. Clarion says:

    I faved this link to read later, and I’m really glad I did. This post is great. I loved the unbiased way you wrote, and outlined your points. The part I loved most was “Dude, until you put a ring on that fourth finger and accept the responsibility for loving, respecting and caring for a woman, you’re the head of nothing” I am amazed at how often strange “men” assume they can boss you around simply because they have a penis (pardon me). One who I don’t know from adam even told me, when I challenged him over a matter that “don’t you know I’m a man? I have authority over you…” The nasty look and sharp response I gave him ehn! Let’s just say I’m sure he will never forget my response, lool!
    I wish I could read this to a couple of my brothers and male friends too!! Lovely piece Sally, God bless you.

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  26. olaide says:

    Well,I was just having dis discussion today wt my man, and he sd d truth of d matter is d man is d head,but dt doesn’t mean he should alws act ‘I m d boss’ relationship is also a kind of partnership,its a give and take affair. Well since Sally strongly blvs stroking their ego works lk magic,I will gv dt a trial(winks)

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  27. Erm, erm, issokay o.

    Learned loads here. Thanks.

    What I think… lemme try it out first, 🙂

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  28. christy says:

    my friend made me read dis work,and i must confess i love it. i just shared it with my husband. cos we just got married. i agree with you,cos i saw it work with my parents. i once heard my mum say “The Man is the Head of the family,don’t drag it with the,rather see yourself (Woman) as the Neck”.

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