Test-The-Terone: To All the Men Married to Their Mothers

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  1. Kany T. Dahl says:

    Tell that to my aunt, the woman is so involved in her children’s(both males n females) marriages. I get so pissed when I see her complaining n controlling.

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  2. The King says:

    *crying*
    I’m going to go and tell my mommy for you

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  3. adefunke says:

    So madam Sally, b4 I read, wanna say ds: pls wot exactly did I do wrong? Cos d last tym I got an update 4rm ur blog was on d 13th of ds month, pls o wetin b my offense?

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    • Sally says:

      First of all, I am sorry about the notification problem. My host company that keeps this blog running http://www.whogohost.com allows only a number of emails per post to avoid spam. So, I didn’t stop sending stuff to you, Whogohost is responsible.
      Second, you sound like I purposely picked you out not to send you emails. There are over five hundred email subscribers to this blog and apart from my own email address, I don’t know anyone else’s to have the time to blacklist them.
      Third, I have been explaining about the notification issues for a while now in my posts but somehow you have chosen to ignore my complaints.
      Fourth, I have fixed the issue and I am very sure that you got a notification from Mailchimp at exactly 9pm.
      Five, if you didn’t get a notification then that’s cos u are using gmail and it has taken the email to either your Social or Promotions folder and you can’t see it in your main folder. Even I have the same problem.
      Sixth, becos of you I have to write a post to explain this to everyone cos I feel people ignore the important announcements I make here.
      Seven, hope I answered your question. Check your gmail properly.

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  4. adeola says:

    wow ms sally…thumbs up. you av just talked d talk…let them hear.thanks.

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  5. lillie says:

    You couldn’t have said this any better!

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  6. Gloria A says:

    Some of these so called men really do have a lot of growing up to do. There’s nothing as annoying as a man who can’t stand up to his mother when she is wrong, and a man who foolishly thinks other women are worthless, while is mother is priceless. I really do hope some of these mummy’s boys will stumble upon this article some how and fix their malfunctioning brains. Lovely piece as usual Sally, well done!

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  7. Dunsin says:

    I absolutely heart ds post! Some guys just dont get it and they keep hurting their spouses cos of their mothers. Respect and love ur significant other and your mother wil respect d man u hv bcome. It’s a win-win situation really.

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  8. toyenlon says:

    True talk, some men are tied to their mother’s apron. They can’t do anything or take any major step without consulting their mom. Guys like this need to grow up.

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  9. Rukayat says:

    I love this post..Well done!

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  10. mariam says:

    Never a dull moment with Sally. For me it boils down to two things 1. Guys that allow their mothers to control them are spine less and very immature. 2. Mothers that must have a say in their children’s lives do not have lives of their own and are very disrespectful. They do not love their kids as they claim, they just want to control them. What happens to ‘a man shall leave his mother and father and CLEAVE to his wife’. If I’m Iya Misturah i’ll definitely find a way to get even. That was mean honestly!

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  11. Atoba says:

    Lovely post. Now the thing is to hope that its message did register in the hearts of all concerned. Our mothers are our mothers, no doubt. So also our wives are our wives. The sky is big enough for the birds to fly, our hearts are big enough to love them both unconditionally. That’s what makes you a real man in cases like this. God bless you Sally!

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  12. Bman says:

    Spot on,Sally. Too many immature males going into marriage (can’t even call them men because they still have a lot of growing up to do). Some mothers do not know there is an end to their roles in their sons’ lives. When you’ve done a good job of raising a good man,you’ll know. Any meddling in his marriage shows that you’re not sure you did a good job.
    As for that tribal marks thingie,scares the hell out of me. None of my siblings(or myself) has tribal marks,so I know my mother wouldn’t do that. I even had to voice it out to my fiancee,just to be clear…LOL! Tribal marks…that thing is evil mehn! Hehe

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  13. mimi says:

    @ the king,roftl,yes ke,tell mummy 4 sally joor,
    My dear sally,God bless u,I wish this can be published in d dailies,some men can be annoying*arrrrggh*

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  14. favour says:

    I totally love this post

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  15. Sally Bonn says:

    But seriously too some mothers should know when to release their hold on their sons for the fact you birthed him does not mean U should define your sons life. Funny enough such mothers ha v e dau

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    • Sally Bonn says:

      Such mothers have daughters and dnt have such control on their daughters just bothered about their sons only. The first comment was incomplete had to complete it

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      • Sally says:

        It’s okay dear. And you’re so right. And do u know the irony, the daughters go and face worse elsewhere

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  16. Ustyn says:

    Let me share a little story,…….A man open a restaurant for his wife in PH,he is based partly in Owerri/PH,the business grows very very well and he sent his mother(husband is late) from that side to come and be the CEO here,i mean mother-inlaw takes over everything from the wife,she completely becomes a staff who takes order and report appropriately to her boss(mother-inlaw) in her own business,she is so helpless that i began to wonder if this woman is actually married to that man,as in she cant buy or sell anything until the mother in law sanctions that thing,meanwhile this daughter inlaw is about 48yrs.I had to stylishly ask the boss cos i went ther to do some biz with them why she is not doing the daughter’s bidding,afterall she is the rightful owner of the business,the woman simply replied “this is my son’s business and am here to safeguard my son’s property,whoever doesnt like it should go away,my son sent me here” at this point i just couldnt say anything again.

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    • Sally says:

      Wow! This is sad. All of the people involved are just annoying me. What type of man is that. Sorry to say, old fool he is. What sort of childishness is worrying him in his old age.
      The mother. I don’t have words for her. Then the wife. Na wa o. Which kain dullard be that? Chai. I’m too weak
      Thanks for sharing

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  17. Melody says:

    Wish men concerned could read this post! My observation overtime reveals they are so insensitive they don’t know, where to draw they lines. Advice: if ur mum is the only living female who is absolutely wonderful…let others be! Don’t even get married. Great piece
    Sally…sometimes I wish I could crawl into your mind and just live there! Beautiful piece as alwaz! More Grace!

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  18. Ustyn says:

    At times some daughter inlaws are just too gentle and nice that the mother inlaws take them for grantd in their own legitimate home,at times its the other way round,but a man got to be a man,you should when to draw a line to everyone excesses in your life.Your mother is your past,your wife is your present and your children are your future,so always put them where they belong….Sally thanks

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    • Sally says:

      You’re so right about some daughters in-law. They just need to stand up and defend their territory and stick to their guns to the end cos if their marriage fails, no one will blame the mother in law but the two people in the marriage.
      Thanks, Ustyn

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  19. Nike says:

    True talk, Sally! I once met a guy like that and it just pissed me off. I have an elder brother too and he’s not attached to my mum’s apron strings. I think guys who are still mummy’s boys should grow up first before going into marriage. Keep up the good work!

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  20. Diana says:

    Hi Sally,this is my first time on your blog and am already a huge fan but i can’t access some articles cos of the privacy… pls i would appreciate it if i could access them. Tanx alot.

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    • Sally says:

      I’m sorry dear. If you can’t access them, then its intentional. Not all posts are open to the public

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  21. Anonymous says:

    Such a great piece sally, its food for thought to all men. Mothers are priceless jewels, at the same time, they shouldn’t take the place of wives in their sons’ lives. Mother having a say/stand in her son’s live which brought about confusion to the son actually broke my relationship. Men should stand and fight for what is theirs, they should take decisions solely with the help of God and not allow to be controlled by any external force. Nice one sally!!!

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    • Sally says:

      May God help us. This issue is very serious these days and it’s sad, really. These ‘boys’ need to man up. Its quite irritating

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  22. Dupe says:

    WoooooooW, nice write up!

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  23. skinart says:

    Hi sally dear. This post hits a sore point. You just described My ex- fiancee and his mum to a T. We go everywhere together, church, shoprite, shopping mall and when we have issues the mum gets to hear about it even before am aware we have them, he even told her when I refused him sex cause I was pregnant and I lost the last one due to rough sex (?.?) .. It Was Hell. Glad to be out of it. I never even for once reported to my mum when the abuse started but his mother can like to call a family “intervention” *me I call it poke nosing* every other day. On one of those meetings I asked who I was dating? That she should stop putting her mouth in our affairs, that the boy is not a man yet and she won’t let him grow thus. The woman became my enemy and made sure we broke up claiming yoruba girls and igbo guys cannot get along but “she’s the one that didn’t want us to get along”. Kmt. Good riddance. Men should endeavour to cut that strings that attatch em to mama that’s ruining their life and the love between their GF/Fiancee/Wife! Peace and Love Sally.

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  24. Enricka says:

    Hahahaha,OMG I love the booty shaking part…..you said it sister!!!

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  25. peachesgurl says:

    Tell them Sally! Tell them!!

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  26. Diana says:

    Awwch buh does it include articles? Like i was reading in pursuit of Kyenpia and there was a next page but i could not access it..is that post private also?

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  27. Tsakani says:

    Amen… Men take heed. Tx Sally…

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  28. gift says:

    Sally has spoken,,its high time someone addresses thus issue,,just last week a frnd was just gisting me abt his friend dat committed suicide,said she got married last year,,was frustrated by hermother inlaw cos she didnt take in,so she took her own life,,dis story is quite annoying cos she’s being married for just 1 year and she’s still very young ,just 27,I said she’s stupid but den some mother in-laws can make someone lose their mind,,,way to go sally

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  29. Noksis says:

    Hmmmmmmmm. Mummy’s boy thing. So annoying i tell you. I blame the men though. Cos it wont happen without their permission

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  30. Bimz says:

    ……and sumhow I found myself with his kinda man..every sentence always started or ended with “my mum dis or dat” and yes I was compared plenty a time with dearest mum.Thank God tins hadn’t gone too far, I took a walk afta a while. Let him go ask his mama to shake d booty for him!

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  31. mary says:

    Awesome post!this is so true.I’m so sorry 4 any1 going thru dis.its a dangerous situation 2 b in as a wife.Sally,I duf my hat 4 u.

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  32. Nwanne says:

    Mothers should also raise sons/men who can be independent of them when necessary. Know when to cut loose the apron strings.

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  33. Jojo says:

    I still haven’t seen a Nigerian ‘non buttie’ to be mummy’s boy

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    • Sally says:

      Ha. Then you’ve not really been with the non-buttie guys. It is not an issue specific to class or status. It cuts across. Misturah’s dad is 100% pako. In short I think exposure sef helps some guys.

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  34. ShyChic says:

    Its really frustrating being in a relationship with mummy’s boy…I had a laugh,but thanks for passing the message across,its time they get their acts together and grow a backbone.

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  35. oke says:

    been trying to comment since this was posted. does wordpress hate me?

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  36. oke says:

    le boo n i went to his brothers wedding and i wore native shirt n trousers which he got for me 4 d occasion. his mom caused a scene and i told her dat her son choose wat i wore he gave her a piece of his mind b4 storming off in anger. sally tnks

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