Dear Sally, He Is Cold And Distant

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15 Responses

  1. Jumes says:

    Well I think you should seek God’s face on this issue. And you might want to self examine yourself too.

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  2. Olly says:

    In my opinion, u both are not meant for each other, marriage wld be a stuggle. In as much as u’ve got to work on urself,every woman needs her man’s assurance from time to time, that’s a part of u dat might never change no matter how hard u try and that might leave u furstrated in the future. Just take ur time, focus on other things and pray.

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  3. nate says:

    You did the right thing, dear

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  4. Sally says:

    Just like Nate said, I’ll concur
    Stay focused and God will see you through

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  5. Mariam says:

    A relationship requires BOTH parties to make adjustments. Secondly communication is the bedrock of all relationships and I dont think the couple are communicating. The guy should also be willing to meet her half way. Lastly, I’ve never been an advocate of settling for certain behavior with the hope it will change. If those things are issues you cannot live with now, please walk away because it MIGHT never change.

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  6. emmonfclassic says:

    Well lady, you might have to spell out what caused your fight. The guy seems genuine and committed. As a guy I believe there is something that would trigger his recent behaviour, maybe you stepped on his no go zones as we guys have a “non crossable” zone. He did forgive and forget the past so I guess this time he can’t overlook again.

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    • toyenlon says:

      I belief there shouldn’t be a “non crossable” zone or whatever in a relationship. The guy should rather come clean and tell her what she did instead of blanking her out. Communication is the key in any relationship and this couple seem to lack that and may lead to more serious problems in marriage.

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  7. Oyin says:

    Communication is key. Pls don’t settle

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  8. AOS says:

    Hmmmm once a guy starts giving excuses of been demanding, lacks communication….etcs then you should opt out if he’s not ready to change and you aren’t ready to wait that long for change to take place which might not even come.

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  9. Uche says:

    I would have said you got a dose of your own medicine but that will be unfair. But frankly speaking you need to deal with the character traits you listed. The way I see it is that even though you later fell for the guy you still had the notion that you would have the reins in the relationship. There is so,much a man can bear especially in this case where the guy has been hurt by you once before. He still has this fear that you will bail on him like you did before. Although it must be said he also should learn to be a bit patient and trusting. But you need to be schooled on patience right from crèche. You called quits on this guy twice. The way I see it you really don’t love him, so forget this particular relationship.

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  10. vickie says:

    I’ll suggest u work on your weaknesses, pray to God concerning it, and for this relationship, it seems the guy is already tired of you. So just forget him and move on. Next guy you’ll date, let him know your weaknesses and you guys can work it out from there!

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  11. mammy says:

    Am no expert, but I think first you have to improve on these flaws you listed ( everyone has 2 to 5 flaws), secondly pray about everything and remember not to pray and worry, thirdly you concentrate on your job and your family for even if he is yours or someone else is, no Man wants a woman who is a burden or who is emotionally demanding. We will also pray for you and I wish you the very best

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  12. Queen says:

    I can’t give advice when I’ve read only one person’s side of the story, although I can say that even if you are advised to go back to him, who is to say he’ll take you back? Or if he does take you back, will he trust you enough not to walk again? Will you NOT walk again? If you were dating you will you accept such a person back? Ask yourself these questions and make up your mind

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  13. Adeosun fadekemi says:

    In my opinion, I think the guy left you and not the other way round.

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  14. Dan Auta says:

    truth is I dont know much about relationships cos I haven’t been in any. But as I was reading this post, I saw that line about ”He is a Capricorn” line. Am i’m a Capricorn too.

    So whats the with being a capricorn got to do with letting ones guide down. Pls guys i need more clarification here. Could it be the reason why I myself seem to run away from realtionships?

    ps; I’m a guy

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