Today, I want to talk about vaginas, about how tight or loose they can be. If you’re a guy, please hang around. You might learn a thing or two, because what prompted this article was a discussion I had with an ill-informed friend. It was a hot argument in which he held that a woman having too much sex or many sexual partners causes her vagina walls to be loose.
I begged to differ, but brother said he was talking from experience. And that is why he doesn’t make love to his wife always.
*rolling my eyes.
How then does he handle his randiness? Brother is yet to answer me. I am waiting for his answer.
Interestingly, he is not part of a minority when it comes to his view. That was how one uncle on Twitter referred to the vagina as a fan belt. Forget the backlash he got. He will not try himself again. But all the same, a lot of people (men, especially) hold that women who have slept with many partners have loose vaginas and that virgins, naturally, are tight.
Well, I hate to burst your bubble, if you’re part of that school of thought. It is not true. That’s an old myth.
First, it should be noted that vaginas, like penises, come in different shapes, sizes and elasticities (if there’s such a word). The vaginal musculature is elastic, and this means it contracts naturally and resumes its normal size and shape after sexual intercourse and childbirth – with exceptions, which are multiple childbirths and age.
Men also, should note that they have a hand in how tight or how loose a vagina can be during sex. Foreplay is very important.
“During arousal the vagina expands in anticipation of being penetrated,” explains Dr. Cadell of founder of LoveologyUniversity.com. “Then the vagina tightens around the penis to give both the man and woman more sexual satisfaction.”
Yes, having a big man or being used to having big men on a constant can become an issue when a woman eventually has sex with someone who is less endowed. However, if she continues with him, her walls will shrink back to fit him. But this doesn’t entirely mean that he cannot enjoy sex with her. If he tries a different position he will ‘feel’ her. So a point to note is that a man might be too thin for a woman.
Another important thing to consider is how a woman controls her vaginal walls. Aunty, you cannot be having sex with your man and just open your legs like that without helping. Think of your vagina as a hand, giving the penis a handjob. Always squeeze when it goes in. This increases sexual pleasure for your man and for you. And with time, it makes you tighter. You will get to a point that you can even get him to come by just one squeeze. How do you achieve this? Kegel exercises. They’re simple to do and no one will know what’s going on when you do them.
Here’s how you train – when you go for a pee, stop it midstream and hold as much as you can. That manner in which you stopped it is the manner in which you should do your Kegels. It’s the same muscles you’re exercising. Squeeze and hold. Do it anywhere, at any time. As you grow older, your walls would begin to lose their elasticity. Kegels during your younger years can ensure that you stay in pristine shape.
“With aging, as estrogen levels diminish, the vaginal walls become thinner and less elastic, so the muscles begin to lose their tautness,” Dr. Cadell said. “Kegel exercises can always help tone and tighten the vagina, so it’s never too late. They also help to prevent urinary incontinence, can enhance orgasmic awareness, and even help a woman to ejaculate.”
There are other natural ways to tighten your vagina and you can read them in this article I wrote HERE. But please, do not put alum down there.
Also, Ben Wa balls can help. I mentioned them in the last episode of It’s Another Novocaine Saturday. If you just had a baby and you feel you need your elasticity back, please click on this link to buy yours.
Sexual positions that can help increase tightness for vaginal walls involve the woman having her legs clamped together. The best of this is having her lying face down with her legs closed. It should guarantee tightness.