sexual health

Aunty, Why Is The Box Not Tight?

Today, I want to talk about vaginas, about how tight or loose they can be. If you’re a guy, please hang around. You might learn a thing or two, because what prompted this article was a discussion I had with an ill-informed friend. It was a hot argument in which he held that a woman having too much sex or many sexual partners causes her vagina walls to be loose. I begged to differ, but brother said he was talking from experience. And that is why he doesn’t make love to his wife always. *rolling my eyes. How then does he handle his randiness? Brother is yet to answer me. I am waiting for his answer. Interestingly, he is not part of a minority when it comes to his view. That was how one uncle on Twitter referred to the vagina as a fan belt. Forget the backlash he got. He…

After Dark: Made To Penetrate – She Raped Him…

When a woman rapes a man… Last year, the news about a 26 year old woman who raped a man went viral and I had to latch on to get the gist. I clicked on a link I saw on Twitter and it took me to Huffington Post where I got the entire detail about the rape incident which actually occurred two years ago. So Chantae Gilman is a mother of four and now pregnant with her fifth child and is facing charges of rape, after breaking into a man’s home and raping him while he slept. According to the victim, who was not named, he had attended a party earlier and had a long day, after which he went straight to bed, only to wake up later to see Gilman straddling him, his hands bound above his head and she was having non-consensual sex with him. He told her…

After Dark: The Lies About Orgasms and Why You Shouldn’t Fake Them (2)

This article is long in coming. I apologize for the absence. If you haven’t read my article on orgasms, you can do so here I’d like to go further with reasons why you are not having orgasms. But before we do so, I’d prefer to explain to you why you shouldn’t ever fake an orgasm. In our times today, there is so much pressure on women and men to act certain ways during sex. This has been heightened by pornography, articles on the web, peer pressure and other forms of sex material we come across daily. There is that need for either of the sexes to be at their top performance when making love and although it is not a bad thing, it should first be noted that sex is not about pressure. It’s about release, expression, feelings, rest, exhilaration, action, reaction, skill, pleasure and love. If you are not in…

After Dark: The Lies About Orgasms and Why You Shouldn’t Fake Them

THE LIES ABOUT ORGASMS AND WHY YOU SHOULDN’T FAKE THEM When you go on the internet today and try to find facts about orgasms, the first thing you’ll see is some statistic that tells you 75% of women do not, cannot or have not attained orgasms. Usually, they would say “according to a recent study”. But nobody seems to tell you who did that particular study or gives you a link to the researcher’s webpage. There is nothing concrete from any of those websites but only what they have written. It will do you well, ladies, to not believe those stats. The female orgasm is a multi-faceted thing and it is does not have a general umbrella that fits all when it comes to describing it or how it comes or how it goes. What works for Ms. A might not necessarily work for Mrs. Z. But somehow the orgasm…

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